I’m unhappy in my relationship with a huge truckload of a crush on someone else and I am emotionally and sexually frustrated because my boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex or go on dates with me. Because I got mad at him for lying to me. And I just wrote a 3000 word…
We live together and have been dating for over 4 years. He’s lied to me about a lot of stuff and I think I’m finally just over it. To be honest the crush is probably just a result of not having sex in like a month haha. I’m just complaining because I’m sad. :(
If you have been living together for that long, and he can’t be honest, you deserve to be over it. You deserve someone who is honest with you, and cares enough to be a good person for the relationship. Someone who is either 1) happy enough to go out in public with you or 2) will bite his lip and go out at least sometimes (even if he hates going out) because he wants to see you happy, because you matter too. And the crush is probably from lack of sex, and I dealt with this problem in my own live-with relationship (for about 2.5 months, then we started having healthy sex again), it turned me from self-confident to overly-needy-with-a-low-self-esteem (we had a lot of arguments over it). Humans who desire sexual stability with their partner, need it (I used to be ashamed to admit that, but I’m not anymore).
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I’m unhappy in my relationship with a huge truckload of a crush on someone else and I am emotionally and sexually frustrated because my boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex or go on dates with me. Because I got mad at him for lying to me. And I just wrote a 3000 word assignment and I really want cider. This can actually lick a butthole.
Love is about working out the problems together, and both parties learning to give/change some of themselves in order to work out those problems, to make the situation at least survivable for BOTH of you, even if it takes some attitude adjustments to make happen (no relationship is going to be smooth sailing all the time). But in event that that can’t happen, life is too short to be stuck with someone who lies and gives you the run around. You deserve to be able to be happy [with them most of the time]. Just make sure before you even plan on going after your crush, you officially and properly end your current relationship. And good luck on your assignment.
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Anonymous said: So I've been with this guy for about one year. I got the courage to have sex but in the last couple months. Anytime we're both turned on after some foreplay. I feel I'm not lubricated enough. I think I am but idk. Cause anytime my guy tries to insert his penis into my vagina it won't let me. Idk if it's cause of that or he has to push harder or keep tryin. "We do wear protection. Plus I'm a virgin he's not. So far we've had no luck in actual sex. Idk what we could do?
Seriously, the easiest and quickest test to see if it’s just due to wetness is to get yourself a small bottle of good quality lube (we recommend Sliquid, we make hissing angry noises at Astroglide and KY), apply it liberally to his penis and your vaginal opening, and see if the sex is easier to work out.
Also, try a few different angles, it could be that the position you’re trying isn’t going to work for you, and a new position will.
I love these ladies! (And I have the same problem, I recommend “Just Like Me” lube by Pure Romance!)
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I think one of the hardest lessons about getting older is realizing life doesn’t magically get better,
it’s not “just make it though the week and next week will be better.” Cause next week will be the same grueling thing, except you’ll still be exhausted from the week before plus the week before that. If you want life to be better, you have to take the plunge, you have to do the work, it’s not that you have to make it better, it’s that you have to force it that way with all of your effort.